After starting with the Natural Vibe Bootcamps in Germany I am now one of two instructors for TDD in Europe. TDD is different to most Dating, Pickup or Seduction companys as we believe in confronting our clients with reality rather than fluff talking them to make them feel good - short: we teach a RESULTS-ORIENTED approach on Attaining your Desired Dating and Social Life. We will accelerate people’s personal development and make them capable of having high-level social interactions.

I started with the whole social psychology, dating and communication thing at the end of 2005 with the goal to master these skills. Being an instructor for over 1.5 years, i was doing talks on events, coaching on communication skills, on styling & fashion and obviously dating.  During this time I started to do these coachings on an international level as well (Germany, The Netherlands, Sweden, The Philippines). I am glad to say that I was able to help most of my clients to achieve the lifestyle they wanted and to reach their social goals in life. So if you are curious just contact me, about any questions on the dating lifestyle.

I had a somewhat normal youth growing up in the southern parts of Germany - bit confused in puberty, bit of a rebel against my parents and the establishment - partly skater, partly Gothic, with lots of different interests… so when I hit the age of 16 I was kind of the odd Kid. Well I had “friends”, but from a more neutral point of view it was more like we grouped together because we were the odd ones, the RPG geeks and skaters. Until then I tried a lot to get a girlfriend and had started some change within. I began practicing martial Arts, which improved my self confidence a lot, did sports on a national competition level, but in my school I was still seen as the odd little (I always was one of the smaller kids in class) Kid, that really had no sexappeal (at least so I thought until years later a girl from my class told me, that she had a crush on me at that time)
The other thing was that I was very concerned with what people thought of me, so even when I had the chance with a girl, I blew it because I didn`t have the confidence to act on the moment and play my cards right, because I was so caught up in my mind.

So this changed at the age of 16 when I went to a youthcamp in Italy, where I had my first experiences with… alcohol… lots of alcohol! Way to go, idiot!
Drunk with lots of tequilla and italian wine (dreadful combination!!!) I sumed up all my confidence and was so “not me and out of my head” that I actually managed to get a really beautiful girl to the beach holding hands and for the first time did not stop at kissing… jackpot!
From that time through to the age of 21 I was OK with women. I realised, that it is OK to be me and that there is always a chance to play your cards right. Well I was not a fast closer, I was slow with girls, but over the years I got an idea of how to get the girl I wanted. The only bad thing about it was, that I very much relied on “liquid confidence” for the first moments. Nevertheless I had lots of beautiful experiences with confusion about how women think and unfortunately lots of pain, always being the one that was being left by the girls. (Damn!) I even had a heartache diary with countless of cheesy poems about love. I did it all: the corny “take me back” letters, the begging, the crying in front of her, the recorded tapes with romatic lovesongs… self humiliation to the highest degree possible. But hey I didn’t know any better… This drove the girls away even more. I put them on a pedestal just because they were girls. All they had to do, to be the queen of my life, was looking good and come into bed with me. Sometimes even kissing me was enough for me to make her my fairytale princess… Nothing about charakter, about same interests or about her value as a human being… if she had those traits as well I became the clingy monkey that tried to squeeze her to death with love.

By the age of 19 I was seen as a player, the guy with lots of girls. But the other guys didn’t realize the lonely truth that lay behind this fassade. I was lonely and even worse I made myself lonely, because onyl very few of the relationships I had, had any substance to them. So I withdrew my emotions from the relationships not to feel so empty and not to get hurt anymore.

Well when I then found a girl that was the sweetest thing on earth aged 21, I was so shut down emotionally that it actually took me ONE YEAR to fully open up to her. Thank god she was so in love with me, that she stuck with me, although I didn`t give her good reason to hope for more than sex. I was so cold, that I already drove her into the arms of another guy, when I felt this pain deep inside me, that showed me how much I really loved her. A frightening moment to feel something again after years of condintioning yourself to be an emotional robot, not to get hurt. This moment really hurt, but it felt good somehow - it was a liberating moment. Well to cut a long story short, I won her back and we went into a relationship that lasted for 10 years.
Over these years I learned a lot about relationships, romance and about myself. The only problem was, that I was an extrovert and sociable guy at the beginning of the relationship and with time I drew myself back into the relationship putting her on a podestal (again!!!) and planning my whole life around her. Four or Five years into the relationship I was no longer “me” but “we” or “us”. I denied my most inner values from year to year.

So I changed from a person she loved to a mere shadow of myself… this lead to so much conflict and seperate lives we lived in the relationship, that eventually we split up, keeping a good friendship but giving up a relationship, that was no longer an option.

That was 2005. I got out of a relationship, that lasted so long, that I had no real definition of myself anymore. I was socially retarded and withdrawn in such a way that I even had angst and paranoia walking alone through a mall - missing my better half.

This state lasted for 5 months when I decided, that somthing had to change. So I took the easiest way I knew at that time - online plattforms and online dating. I flirted and met some women, but most of them where freaks - much like me at that time. But I learned somthing from a sweet american girl - the power of words and that the brain is the biggest erogenous zone for women. Women can be seduced by words and words alone. Listen to what they have to say and what hints they are giving you and lead them into a world, that sparks emotions.

I learned something from that time, but I didn`t find the girl I wanted to - the girls that you see on the streets, in the clubs or at the supermarket. I started researching on the internet on communication (partly because of my job, partly because I knew how powerful words could be with women) and found NLP. Sounded interesting and I started reading, but I didn`t really see the solution to my problem in talking a women into bed… after another 3 months I found Pickup! I listened to the podcast, read the game and several other books, watched several DVDs, found the local lair where I made friends, that like me had the goal to get their life on track. We went out 3 to 5 times a week, reviewed our nights at a bar or a fast food restaurant, wrote down the learnings in a closed blog and pushed ourselves over the edge every week. Within 5 months we went from AFC to Pickuper to PUA. But then what… I was still not content with myself, because I realised that all these methods we were using drove me back to a point of emotional distance… “I” wanted to be the one that seduced the women, not the method or the fassade I put up.

That was the time when German Falcon, Furious and I founded “Project Vibe” to develop ourselves, away from process and routine based PUAs, into Naturals. We were already aware that this whole “Seduction” thing was bigger than just women - it was social arts on every level, making friends at every place we went to. So when we talked to guys we were our confident selves that resonated good with the other people, but when a beautiful woman came along we put the Pickup Act back on. That had to change!

And it did… It took me some time to calibrate myself to a life without canned openers, DHVs, Mindgames and Kino routines, just being me with the benefit of knowing what to do next and how to escalate. But the result was astounding - even more opportunities for lays and the women I chose to be in my life are so fascinated of the true me, that they put energy and effort in to be with me. Recently a girl who is a precious diamond to me, told me that it is fascinating about me, that I have a strong, a funny and a loving and caring side and all are my true self - there is nothing fake about it. That was very flattering, but it also shows, that I can be every aspect of myself without loosing the frame or not being congruent. So I finally reached a point where I am just myself, where flirting and seduction are part of my personality, of my lifestyle, and that is just a beautiful feeling… no masks no fassades… just my true magnetic self.

Obviously I had some request over time to teach what I knew to other guys. While my best friend started working for Charisma Arts I just helped out on some Bootcamps as a co trainer, Did some projects and lots of talks within the German community. Later I started my own Bootcamps with Natural Vibe, bringing natural Game to the people that where fed up with the flawed PU system.

This summer I got in contact with Troy Dizon, who is a Dating coach with 7 years of experience and a foolproof system to get guys back to being just normal guys with a superstar dating life. To make a long story short… I found some guys around the world that share my view, that love women and teach a system that I fully can relate to, because it is reality without any marketing distortions. So therefore I am honored to be the official TDD (TroyDizonDating.com) Instructor for Europe, especially as we will do this as a Team. I couldn’t think of anyone better to do this with, as my best friend Julian, who actually left CharismaArts to be part of the TDD Team.

So see you around for the next TDD Event!

Cheers,

Carsten aka Angel Vicious